How to Silence Your Inner Critic to Practice Self-Love

Have you ever experienced a voice inside your head telling you you’re not good enough? Ever played a past or future situation in your head over and over again whilst being disheartened by a barrage of negativity? Also known as the greatest enemy to success and confidence, self-doubt is basically your inner critic coming out to play.

We have all been held back at some point by our inner critic as its innate negativity eats away at our self-confidence and self-love. Let’s unravel how to silence your inner critic. After all, achieving inner peace is a key pillar to practice self-love.

How to Silence your Inner Critic

Ackowledgement

At times, negative thoughts and self-doubt can show up like second-nature. That’s why the first step is acknowledgment; recognise that it’s just a thought. A thought is fleeting and, as they come and go, negative ones are bound to arrive at some stage. Recognise that it’s a self-constructed thought and that only we are in control of our thoughts.

Name your Inner Critic

Give your inner critic a name. So, we’ve all heard of negative Nancy, right? Not only is it super catchy, but it also acts as a reminder to stop us getting wrapped up in negativity, criticism, and self-doubt. They all result in us feeling unworthy and unequipped to face life’s challenges and work towards our goals. Giving your inner critic a name will make it easier to recognise, thus becoming easier to silence. This technique further solidifies the fact that the inner critic is not you and that we need to banish this outlook to practice self-love.

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Negative Nancy who?!

Think about it. Does feeding your inner critic serve you in any way? Of course not! Let’s not give way to such a voice. Do not give your inner critic importance. The more you fret about it, the more you succumb to instilling the negativity in your mind. For example, if you find yourself thinking “I am so useless. I always mess up” listen as it comes to your mind, and then let it go. That thought, or “negativity Nancy”, only grows if you let it. After all, overthinking is a vicious circle that often leads to stress, anxiety, and depression.

Replace Negativity with Positivity

Override the negativity with positivity. The garden analogy works perfectly here: we remove weeds to stop them from stealing the sun, nutrients, and water from the plants and flowers we wish to grow. Watering the weeds would just be counterproductive. Instead of watering the weeds, we must remove them in order to let the flowers grow. The same situation exists in our minds.  Upon recognising your inner critic or negative mindset, that unwelcomed weed, be sure to replace it with a positive thought.

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Highlight your Strengths

Invest in a self-love journal. Every time someone gives you a compliment, write it down. Every time you recognise a personal strength, jot that down too. Give examples of your achievements, elaborate, big yourself up. This will act as a strong DIY weed killer in those times of need. If one day you are facing a fierce battle against Negative Nancy, practice self-love through journaling. Take a glimpse, or read through as much as it takes to silence that dreaded (but completely normal!) negativity.

To sum up…

Our inner critic gives way to negativity, a fixed mindset, self-doubt, anxiety, stress, and the list goes on… Thankfully, these steps enable you to silence your inner critic and practice self-love. When a barrage of negativity arrives, you have the tools to override it and find inner peace. Remember, acknowledge your Negative Nancy, don’t waste time on it, and change the channel to positivity. When things get tough, read your self-love journal full of your strengths, achievements, and compliments to remind you of just how amazing you are.

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity – it’s sanity.” – Katrina Mayer

14 Comments

  1. I love the journal idea and writ g down compliments…I tend to dismiss compliments not believing them. Love this idea.

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