Well-Being and The Social Dilemma

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Following Netflix’s hit documentary The Social Dilemma, many of us are now aware of the negative influence platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter have on our well-being. Though, of course, there are so many incredible benefits to social media to be thankful for. We can keep in contact with loved ones all over the globe, feel inspired with a simple click, or build a sense of community from the comfort of our own home. When used in a non-addictive manner, our device and social media can be wonderful tools. They can provide us with an income, connect us with people from the past, expand our social calendar, etc. What isn’t talked about enough though, is the impact that it has on our well-being.

Our well-being represents how happy and healthy we are in addition to our mental health. Aside from physical health and feeling well, it’s also about your confidence and life satisfaction. So, what exactly is the social dilemma and how is it related to our well-being? It’s the idea that billions of people use social media each day, yet the intentions behind these sites are not aligned with social good. According to the Journal of Epidemiology, 2017, “a 5,000-person study found that higher social media use correlated with self-reported declines in mental and physical health and life satisfaction. So just how bad is technology and social networking for mental health? Let’s explore some dangers that it poses according to science.

Dopamine and Addiction

The word addiction may not surprise you with in-depth design techniques that provide us with tempting notifications 24/7. What do these push notifications do? They ensure that we check in on our social media accounts, and are constantly connected on WhatsApp and email. It creates an endless spiral of scrolling, staying connected, or perhaps both in many cases. But what toll do endless notifications and 24/7 connection have on our well-being? Firstly, it keeps us glued to our devices. For those that haven’t already done so, check the time spent on your phone over the past week. The figures are often surprisingly high. At this point, ask yourself OK realistically how long do I want to spend on my phone per day? Reducing time spent on our devices is not a walk in the park. Let’s take a look at the science behind its addictive nature.

Dopamine is a chemical produced in the brain that plays a key role in motivating behaviour. It’s also regarded as the “happy hormone” due to the pleasure it produces. While it “is also responsible for people becoming addicted.” So where does social media come into play? According to the American Journal of Epidemiology, 2017 platforms like Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok “leverage the very same neural circuitry used by slot machines and cocaine to keep us using their products as much as possible.”  Cognitive neuroscientists highlight that rewarding social stimuli, think emojis, and positive responses in the form of messages, comments, likes, etc., activate dopaminergic reward circuits. These stimuli actually motivate this social behaviour. In other words, every notification has the potential to spark a dopamine influx and, in turn, addiction. Addiction, in any form, is dangerous and is just one facet of the social dilemma.

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An Intimate Digital Connection and Anxiety

How often do you think people interact with your phone each day? Adults in the US spend an average of 2 – 4 hours a day on their devices. Shockingly, teenagers use it on average for about 8 hours a day.  In fact, studies show that “people tapped, swiped and clicked a whopping 2,617 times each day, on average.” This doesn’t necessarily mean that we are glued to our phones for long periods of time, in fact, in general, it’s the opposite. Numerous small sessions add up to such surprising figures. The continuity of stimulus and information is not only addictive, but it can also provoke anxiety and depression. Studies reveal a correlation between phone usage and anxiety and depression. Why? Because we compulsively check our phones and notifications because of the instant gratification provided.

This instant gratification is dangerous as it pushes us towards new social behaviours and a sense of belonging. As a result, this threatens face-to-face socialising, exposure to nature, physical activity, sleep. Overwhelming amounts of information have significant negative effects. FOMO, the fear of missing out, or inadequacy are also reasons behind the anxiety social media causes. As we watch fun social events on friends’ stories, we feel like we’re missing out. Or as we scroll through filtered photos on Instagram, we may feel inadequate. The consequences of this intimate digital connection are that it creates an illusion of fun and flawlessness. Sites like Instagram also increase the likelihood of comparing ourselves with others. Social media accounts are not a representation of reality. They can create high, false expectations, particularly for the younger generation.

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The Control of Social Media

Social media and technology are intricately designed to get the most information out of us as possible. Every like, Google search, time spent looking at a particular photo, etc. enables machines to know each and every one of us inside out. For this reason, the information that appears on our feeds is so appealing to us. We do not see the same ads or articles while browsing as our loved ones. In fact, when you go to your homepage of YouTube or Google, the viewing suggestions are based on this huge accumulation of data. Social media is essentially free because we are the product. Businesses pay to advertise optimally because they have access to our data.

Does this sense of control really influence our well-being? Well, it certainly influences the way we think. We are the product of what we see, read, and listen to. Businesses pay for our data to tempt us with their products and services. It’s also a defiance of privacy as companies manipulate what we view, page visits, or even expose us to fake news. Tempting notifications make us pick up our device over and over again, thus enabling a constant accumulation of data and information about us. According to these companies, a person is worth more the more they check their device because the customers are the advertisers. The accumulation of a person’s data is so in-depth that algorithms are now about to predict our behaviours like what we’ll do next and where we’ll go.

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Well-being and The Social Dilemma…

The social dilemma brings awareness to the fact that spending hours a day on a device or platform is an addiction. The anxiety that accidentally leaving the house without our phone brings, or the urge to look at it as soon as we wake up should in itself be a wake-up call. Too much screen time is unhealthy, as is lengthy exposure to social media or emails. 24/7 connection, scrolling, or googling threatens face-to-face communication and time spent doing physical activity or being in nature. The sharp rise in anxiety and depression points to the influx in the use of these platforms, particularly in the younger generation. The control it has on us is justified by how content appears with us in mind. We are susceptible to ads, controlled content, and fake news suggestions due to an immense amount of data accumulated about our private lives and personalities.

So, what are the solutions to the social dilemma? Question the morality of access to such personal information, google what you want to read, and search for YouTube videos instead of just clicking on the suggested content. More importantly, reduce the time spent on your device. Hold out and resist the urge to check your phone so often. After all, it’s those small sessions that accumulate to such shocking screen time figures. Change your checking habits and turn off non-essential notifications. Deleting social media may not be viable for you, and that’s OK. What you can do is make a concerted effort to avoid the susceptibility of instant gratification for your well-being. Invest your time in ways that help you grow, not in tools with the power to shape your beliefs and behaviours.

Have you seen the documentary yet? How does your device and these platforms affect you personally?

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    1. I have watched the social dialemma, and I agree that the worst thing about social media is that it is so so addictive! And this can affect our wellbeing. Thanks for sharing!

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      1. I really enjoyed the documentary. You’re right, it is so addictive!

    2. Glowyshoes says:

      Taking care of our wellbeing is of utmost importance. Personally, i usually take time out from the social media world so as to get my sanity back.

      1. I totally agree! I try to take time out too and it helps so much 🙂

    3. Jana says:

      I have watched and learned a lot from the documentary! I mean I already knew how much time and energy social media sucks from our daily lives, but really honing in on how much it hits our well-being is tough. I’ve been trying to make a point to cut back on time spent on social media and make sure the time I do spend on it is intentional. Great post with tons of insight!

      1. I learned so much from it too. It’s tough but definitely worth cutting back on for our well-being. Thank you 🙂

    4. Ana says:

      This documentary is on my list!!

      1. It won’t disappoint 🙂

    5. turtleross13 says:

      Thank you for this thought-provoking post! I believe that most Social Media companies out there lack any sort of moral code. They are completely harmful to people’s mental and emotional health and they DO NOT CARE. It seriously bothers me. Even though I do utilize social media daily, I try to have a positive impact on other’s well-being. I am so glad you are bringing this to people’s attention.

      1. After watching this documentary it definitely looks like platforms with such a huge audience should change things up. I’m glad you use it in the right way. Thank you 🙂

    6. Daphne says:

      I seem to be constantly recommending the social dilemma- watching the anger deepen is so frustrating! Personally and as a blogger I see so much value online if used properly. Insightful post!

      1. Haha, I keep recommending it too. I totally agree, the internet and these platforms are great tools when used in a non-addictive manner.

    7. Danielle says:

      This is all so true! Thanks so much for sharing!

    8. lifeofandra says:

      I haven’t seen the documentary yet, but it’s definitely on my list now. Thanks for this 😀

      1. It’s definitely worth watching 🙂

    9. Kelly says:

      My boyfriend and I watched it a while ago, and it was really eye opening. My boyfriend changed a lot of his habits after watching it. I’m working on it, but I admit that I tend to grab my phone more often than needed.

      1. Yeah, that’s the amazing part! It’s eye-opening and helps us realise we have some bad habits that need changing. Most of us do, but at least we are aware of it and can try to change it 🙂

    10. Kimberlie says:

      As an elementary teacher, I have horrified to see the social media dependence begin earlier with phones being gifted.

      1. Wow, that’s hard. It’s especially worrying for the younger generation. I guess it’s time to show them this documentary too!

    11. Rachel says:

      The most striking part of the documentary was that the creators of social media platforms didn’t use them or allow their kids to use them! They all felt bad about creating them in the first place. Being aware of the problem is the first step to fixing it!

      1. That part definitely shocked me too! You’re so right – the first step is awareness.

    12. You’re not wrong here. It’s so addicting. I know find myself scrolling when I’m watching my shows, too. I need a cut back! Thanks for the reminder!

      1. It is definitely a distraction. I do the same when watching TV and half the time I need to put it out of reach!

    13. Danielle says:

      Well put! While social media is necessary (especially when running a blog) I do find I often get caught up in things that are not necessarily helpful to me as an individual, and that greatly impacts my mental health. Your article highlights the need to mindful and conscious of our media usage

      1. That’s very true, it’s crucial for running a blog, we just have to be mindful. Thank you 🙂

    14. Millicent says:

      Great post! Social media is so addicting. I routinely have to take breaks from all platforms because I find myself going often throughout the day. Most times Im just mindlessly scrolling because Im used to doing it.

      1. Me too! I really have to limit myself because I find it so addictive. Thank you! It’s great that you routinely take breaks from it all 🙂

    15. Suzanne says:

      Such a catch 22 we use these devices for business and work but these same devices are the sources of the social addiction we get sucked into. The awareness is so important. We were able to be successful before all these electronics we need to make sure they are not our lifeline. Thanks for the reminder

      1. That’s very true! It’s so easy to get sucked into it all and waste time

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